Romantic Reflections is dedicated to thoughts and musings of Living your life in a romantic fairytale
Loving Compliments
“Don’t ever pass up a chance to compliment your true love”
There is one very simple reason why we have a partner that we share our lives with. We love them.
It may have been love at first sight, or your love may have blossomed from a friendship that you had been cultivating for years, but at some point you said those three little words that cemented the feelings that you harboured in your heart for that special person you share your life with.
Physical attraction is a very important part of any relationship, but true love means that you are not just enamoured by the way your partner looks on the outside, but you truly love (and like) the person that they are, their character, their unwavering honesty, and lets admit it … their little flaws.
As relationships progress, it is sometimes easy to accept someones loving characteristics and generosity as who they are, and not to truly thank them for being the superior human being that you love so much. The best way to ensure your loved one always knows how much you appreciate them, is the simple act of giving them a compliment.
Remember the First Time
Do you remember the first time your partner went out of their way and surprised you with cooking you a very special dinner. You were overcome with butterflies fluttering in your stomach and the feeling of love in your heart as you thought about how special it was that this person put forth the effort to do something for you that was both thoughtful and personal, showing to you the giving and loving person that they are.
You couldn’t help but telling them all throughout the meal how delicious all the food tasted, and how much it filled your heart that they took the time and attention to display their love. You kept getting up and giving them little kisses and touching their hand as you shared your romantic dinner, trying to constantly remind them how much their gesture meant and how wonderful you think they are.
As the years pass and meals sometimes become daily routines versus special occasions, do you still thank your partner when they unilaterally prepare a meal for you? The occasion now may not be intended to impress you, but may simply be the fact that your partner was home first and therefore had the “duty” of preparing dinner. If you think about it, the same effort was put forth this time as the first time they cooked for you. They were considering your thoughts and feelings and were making the effort to have a meal prepared to share with you upon your arrival home.
Did you now take the time to compliment your lover as you shared this lovely dinner together? Did you hold their hand and tell them how special they are to you, and how much it meant that they took the time and attention to prepare dinner? Did you get up and give them little kisses and hugs throughout the evening in a show of thanks? Did you compliment them on their talents in the kitchen?
Saying thank you, and giving a compliment for little gestures, even if the gestures become routines or conveniences, should never stop. It is very important to your loving romantic relationship to always let your partner know that you appreciate what they do for you, and how they make your relationship a healthy and happy place where love is nurtured and grows stronger each year. Your partner needs to know that they are appreciated and that the time they spend thinking of your feelings warms you heart and makes you feel special and loved.
Complimenting Little Achievements
So often in life it is easy to become discouraged as you feel under appreciated for your little successes as you embark on your journey of personal growth. You work every day on your goal of becoming a more rounded and fulfilled individual bursting with talents and abilities that make you happy, and sometimes it seems as if the world around you doesn’t recognize how much you are striving to always be better.
As you are always in the pursuit of bettering yourself, you are continually trying new things that you may have limited experience in but wish to become more proficient at and master. Your first attempts at a new skill may not be perfect, but never despair as practice and perseverance will continually improve your abilities as you reach an ever higher level of perfection.
When you see your partner embarking on a new challenge in their life and attempting to add a new skill into their lives, it is important that you encourage them along their journey. Always be honest with your partner and don’t sugar coat their level of success over a particular skill, but instead compliment them on their continual improvement. The very first time they pick up a guitar they quite possibly may not have the proficiency of Jimmy Hendricks, but compliment your partner on beginning their journey of musical discovery, and honestly follow their progress with compliments and encouragement of their continual improvement.
It is easy to feel less than appreciated during your desire to try new things and improve yourself, so as you notice your lover working on themselves and trying very hard to become a master of a new domain, think of how nice it would be if someone were in your corner encouraging you during your little successes along your path of self improvement, and how nice a little compliment would feel when you have little struggles as you strive for a better you.
If you compliment the one you love and acknowledge their small successes, before you know it they will be doing the same for you and you will both be achieving your individual goals while always feeling the love and mutual support of the one person in the world who thinks you are an incredible person and feels more love for you each and every day.
Compliments are contagious, and as with everything in life are more special when shared together with the one you love.
Complimenting Your Life
True happiness in your life does not depend on the person you are with making you happy, but instead depends on you being happy with yourself first and foremost. You have to love yourself and who you are first before you can truly love and be loved by another. When you do find that special person that you absolutely love spending time with they become a compliment to your happy life, not the reason your life is happy.
You love your partner with your heart and soul as they fit so perfectly into your life, and you love the person they are and the special things they do to make you feel loved. It is easy in a new love to tell your partner how happy they make you and to compliment them on being the special person that they are, but as time goes by and your relationship matures, you must be sure to never let those compliments stop.
At first you may be giving your partner a compliment to show them appreciation, but over time the compliments become so much more … they become encouragements of how they are growing and becoming better human beings, and your compliments let them know that you appreciate who they are today and how much each day makes you fall more deeply in love with them.
Do not ever pass up the opportunity to tell the love of your life that they are doing something special, that they are touching your heart and filling your world with love and romance. Together the two of you can do anything you set your minds to as together you encourage each other with compliments, and create the romantic FairyTale life you both dream of and enjoy so much.
Romantic Reflections is a collection of thoughts and musings intended to add little touches of love and romance to our relationships creating a fairytale that will last forever.